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Skillshare Class Project

As you respond to the 12 items below, think of a conversation with someone from your personal or professional life that hasn’t been going very well.

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1. At times I avoid situations that might bring me into contact with people I’m having problems with.
2. I have put off returning phone calls or e-mails because I simply didn’t want to deal with the person who sent them.
3. Sometimes when people bring up a touchy or awkward issue I try to change the subject.
4. When it comes to dealing with awkward or stressful subjects, sometimes I hold back rather than give my full and candid opinion.
5. Rather than tell people exactly what I think, sometimes I rely on jokes, sarcasm, or snide remarks to let them know I’m frustrated.
6. When I’ve got something tough to bring up, sometimes I offer weak or insincere compliments to soften the blow.
7. In order to get my point across, I sometimes exaggerate my side of the argument.
8. If I seem to be losing control of a conversation, I might cut people off or change the subject in order to bring it back to where I think it should be.
9. When others make points that seem stupid to me, I sometimes let them know it without holding back at all.
10. When I’m stunned by a comment, sometimes I say things that others might take as forceful or attacking—terms such as “Give me a break!” or “That’s ridiculous!”
11. Sometimes when things get a bit heated I move from arguing against others’ points to saying things that might hurt them personally.
12. If I really get into a heated discussion, I’ve been known to be tough on the other person. In fact, they might even feel a bit insulted or hurt.