96% of survey respondents have experienced bullying at work, and 54% of workplace bullies have been at it for 5-plus years
Provo, Utah – June 25, 2014 – Brian regularly emailed his direct reports at all hours of the night. When one didn’t immediately answer, he would hurl a volley of emailed threats and personal insults. Team members felt afraid, vulnerable, and helpless. Many quit. The turnover cost millions of dollars – not to mention the disruption of service to customers. In spite of employees’ attempts to complain, Brian’s behavior continued for years. Here are other real stories:
According to a new study by Joseph Grenny and David Maxfield, co-authors of New York Times bestsellers Crucial Conversations and Influencer, 96 percent of respondents say they have experienced workplace bullying. Eighty-nine percent of those bullies have been at it for more than a year; 54 percent for more than five years. In some cases, the survey found, bullies have continued in the same job for 30-plus years.
“We were astonished that in so many cases the person most likely to remain in his or her job was the bully,” said Grenny. “Bullying can’t persist unless there is a complete breakdown in all four systems of accountability – personal (the victim himself or herself), peer (others who witness the behavior), supervisory (hierarchical leaders), and formal discipline (HR). So it was shocking to see in how many organizations not just one – but all four of these systems were terribly weak.”
Equally surprising was the widespread effect of bullying. It was rare that the alleged bully picked a single target. In fact, 80 percent of respondents said the bully affected five or more people.
So, how do you stop a bully? The study showed that the most effective deterrent is the skillful verbal intervention of the person being targeted. Next most effective is informal peer accountability. While in high-accountability organizations all four must be strong – personal, peer, boss and formal discipline – the study showed that the first breakdown is the first. When individuals and peers who experience or see bullying say nothing, the bully gets emboldened. And the more who join in the silence, the more evidence the bully has that the behavior is sustainable.
A lack of formal policies similarly enables bullying. Only 51 percent say their company has a policy for dealing with bullies, and only 7 percent know of anyone who has ever used that policy. (Six percent say the policy did work to stop a bully.)
According to the study, workplace bullying takes on a variety of forms. Of those who had seen or experienced bullying:
Grenny and Maxfield offered specific tips for dealing with a workplace bully:
“When dealing with a bully, too often we fall victim to thinking ‘this is how they are, and nothing I do will change them or their actions,’” said Maxfield. “Actually, years of research prove that’s not true. A bully can change if someone stands up to him or her and helps them see the consequences of their actions. Otherwise, it will simply continue.”
A final thought: Being bullied is also expensive, according to the study. Twenty percent said dealing with workplace bullies cost them 7-plus hours a week in lost time. That’s $8,800 in lost wages to those workers or their employers every year.
Note to Editor: Grenny and Maxfield are available for interview. For a high-res infographic of the survey, click here.
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