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March 1, 2006
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  • Crucial Tip
  • Survey: Tax Season
  • Q&A: Talking about Change
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  • CRUCIAL TIP

    Speaking Up When We Shouldn’t

    More often than not, we remain silent when we should speak up. However, there are times when you should remain silent.

  • If the problem is small, won’t happen again, and you know the other person already feels bad, you probably don’t need to say anything.

  • If the problem doesn’t have a significant impact, don’t say anything.

  • If you’re part of a leadership team and you’re the only one who cares about a certain issue—or is at least willing to confront it—take preparatory steps. Talk to your peers. If you’re still the “Lone Ranger,” tell your team that you are about to set a new standard (give them a warning),
    then do it.

  • SURVEY: TAX SEASON
    When discussing taxes with friends, family, or coworkers, if someone describes a tax strategy that seems illegal or unethical, should you speak up? Why or why not? How would you approach it?

    We'd like to know your opinion.

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    "Facts are facts and will not disappear on account of your likes."
    - Jawaharlal Nehru

    Talking about Change

    About the Author


    Kerry Patterson is coauthor of the New York Times bestseller, Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High.more

    Dear Authors,

    During company-wide change initiatives, how do you help employees talk about and process their own experience with change?

    Signed,
    Managing Change


    Dear Managing,

    There is an old axiom that suggests that humans naturally resist change. If you believe this is true, offer someone a raise and see how much resistance he or she puts up. People don’t resist change per se; they resist change that they fear will cause them problems. That’s why it’s so important to create an atmosphere of open and honest dialogue during a company-wide change initiative.

    People need to be able to talk about all problems, real and imagined. Sometimes a change that sounds good on paper creates unimagined problems. If you can’t talk about these unanticipated challenges, you can’t resolve them. Sometimes the very thought of change creates worries, followed by rumors. If you can’t talk about imaginary problems or widely shared myths, you can’t put them to rest. Honest communication greases the gears of change.

    How do you create an atmosphere of open dialogue? Encourage frank discussion of concerns. If people appear nervous to express their disagreements, play devil’s advocate as a way of starting the free flow of ideas: "It is possible that changing this process will have a negative effect on delivery schedules. How do you see it?" Express your own concerns or any apprehensions you may have heard from others. This demonstrates that it’s safe to bring up issues.

    When you first introduce a new policy, procedure, or other change, ask people to share their concerns. Give people time to think about the issue, and then reconvene a day or two later. Thank those who express their worries or share differing viewpoints. Restate their views to ensure that you understand their issues and to let them know you’re actually listening rather than simply preparing counter arguments. If you agree with certain issues, agree. If the person has left off part of the argument, agree and then add the additional information. If you see it differently, don’t abrasively disagree; instead, suggest that you have a different view and share how you differ. Then call for questions.

    Don’t treat people who have differing views, concerns, or worries as the enemy. When people raise issues, avoid suggesting that they aren’t “team players.” People who have the courage to bring up their differing views are your heroes. You can’t answer questions or solve problems if you don’t know what they are. Those who let you know what the unspoken issues are by sharing unpopular points of view should be viewed as valued assets. Don’t make the mistake of cutting yourself off from employee concerns.

    The goal of all of this open communication isn’t to win arguments or convince one another of your better ideas, but to understand one another, share your best ideas, and then come to a common agreement. Be willing to sincerely listen. Be willing to make mid-course corrections. You don’t want to give in at the first sight of resistance, but you also don’t want to be too set in your ways to make any viable improvements. So talk openly and honestly, make it safe for others to speak and be heard, and let shared knowledge illuminate your path to change.

    Good luck!
    Kerry

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    When You Make a Mistake at Work

    By Joseph Grenny

    What do you do when you’ve made a mistake at work? How do you smooth things over and make amends with your boss? Joseph Grenny suggests holding four crucial conversations to recover trust and build credibility:

    1. Admit to the mistake quickly—if your boss hears it from you rather than from others, he or she will trust you more.

    2. Go overboard in compensating for damage—if a customer was hurt, for example, surprise and delight them in how you respond to their concerns. And let your boss know as soon as possible that you’re doing to fix the problem so he or she recognizes you are owning the problem.

    3. Share your findings—tell the boss what you’ve learned and how things will be different in the future.

    4. Ask for feedback—ask the boss what else you should draw from this that you’re missing.

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