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January 7, 2009
Vol. 7 Issue 1
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Crucial Conversations
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Deciding When to Speak Up

When you’re facing a tough situation and trying to decide whether or not to speak up, it’s easy to kid yourself into remaining silent. That’s why so many problems go unresolved or are only treated around the edges. To make sure that you’re not avoiding something you should confront, ask:
Am I acting out my concern?
Am I telling myself I’m helpless?
Is my conscience nagging me?


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“A wise man recognizes the convenience of a general statement,
but he bows to the authority of a particular fact.”
– Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Solving Communication Problems at Work

[Image: Al Switzler--Al Switzler is coauthor of the New York Times bestseller, Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High.
  [Image: Question] Dear Crucial Skills,

I work in the HR department for a consulting company. I have worked there for almost eight months and I’ve noticed an ongoing issue with communication—or the lack thereof. On a weekly basis, I discover problems that could have been easily prevented with proper communication.

How do I ask my managers to communicate better with the entire department? I feel as though they don’t think there is a problem. It also appears that they are too busy to resolve ongoing issues. I however, desperately need to solve this problem before I lose my mind.

Desperate 

  [Image: Answer] Dear Desperate,

Unfortunately, you’re not alone in your dilemma. When you look at organizational and team surveys, ineffective communication always scores as one of the top three problems. And as you have clearly experienced, this problem is not benign—the consequences are very serious.

So why doesn’t this problem get solved? The most apparent reason is that urgent visible priorities always trump invisible priorities. When people are up against goals, deadlines, and meetings, it’s hard to stop and think about fixing infrastructure. Another reason is that improving communication is rarely included on performance appraisals. And lastly, poor communication persists because managers sometimes just don’t see the problems it causes. And if the people closest to the problems don’t surface the issues in ways that matter, managers may know of the problems, but may not “feel” the problem enough to make it a priority. Any solution will need to address these kinds of issues.

So, here are a few suggestions to help you improve communication at your company:

1. Schedule regular time to communicate. When a problem occurs as a result of poor communication, be sure to write a brief description of the problem, a list of a few possible consequences, and a proposed solution. Then find a “safe” moment to talk about it with your manager.

Your conversation may sound something like this: “I’ve noticed a communication issue that, if solved, would make the team more effective and I’d like to talk about it for a few minutes. Here in the local office, we often don’t get information that allows us to set priorities on our projects. Because of this, we delay until we get the necessary information and then rush to finish the project on time. This causes a lot of stress and errors. I’m wondering if we can schedule a weekly fifteen-minute call to review priorities and talk about any questions or communication issues that, if answered or solved, would help us be more productive.”

2. Identify and share effective and ineffective behaviors. The second approach focuses on the behavior of individual managers and maybe even team members. Identify the behaviors that are working, not working, or missing—on all levels. If you can identify them, step up to the conversation—lead with an observation and a question. For example, “I’ve noticed that when one of the team members approaches you with a concern about the status of the project, you often brush it off until you feel you have time to address the problem. By then, it’s often too late and the project is far off course. Can we talk about this and see what can be done to make some improvements?”

It’s always best to start with yourself and then move to the next person. If you run into resistance, share your intention—you are trying to improve communication so the team can be more effective.

3. Obtain data by conducting a survey. One of the best ways to get the attention of managers and technicians is to share data. In order to obtain sufficient and significant data, conduct a survey. A survey will help you identify the issues you need to work on as well as uncover solutions to the most important issues.

When creating your survey, start by asking these three questions:
1) What behaviors help us get our work done?
2) What behaviors hinder our work?
3) List specific suggestions for improving our work or our team.

4. Garner support by talking to your colleagues. I once heard a manager say that if one person came to her with an issue and a solution, she had to think about it. If a group came with an issue and a solution, she had to attend to it. So to get management’s attention, get support from the whole team. Check with your colleagues to see if they feel a similar frustration and if so, exactly where their pain points are. Then, propose a structured solution accordingly. Have one or two people present the team’s plan to the manager to ensure he or she doesn’t feel overwhelmed and outnumbered.

In summary, communication cannot be left to chance. The easiest way to solve many of these problems is to schedule regular time to communicate about what is and what is not working. In my experience, the first issues to surface will be safe, simple, less-controversial issues. However, once leaders show they are committed to the process, the real problems will surface and improvements can be made.

This process reinforces a key finding of our crucial conversations research: all families, teams, and organizations have problems. The difference between the good and the great is how rapidly and respectfully problems are resolved.

Best Wishes,
Al 

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The Speak Easy

[Image: Steve Willis -- Steve Willis, vice president of professional services at VitalSmarts is one of the original Master Certified Trainers in both Crucial Conversations and Crucial Confrontations Training programs.

I frequently have the opportunity to speak at events, corporate retreats, and conferences. Before my last speech, I was talking with the event planner. We chatted about this and that, and then she ventured a question: “Do you still get nervous before you speak? I would suppose that by now, speaking would be easy for you.” I think she was surprised and confused when I answered “yes” to her question.

So I quickly clarified. “While I do get nervous, it’s not debilitating. I’ve done this enough that I’m able to fall back on what’s habitual and that makes delivering the speech a whole lot easier.” I went on to explain that even though I deliver speeches frequently, I still find it important to practice before the event.

I know some people believe that after they have experience under their belt they no longer require practice. However, I’ve found nothing could be farther from the truth. 

I still practice, I’ve just changed the way I practice and what I practice. For example, with familiar speeches, I practice delivering client-specific cases and examples. Sometimes, I practice to improve transitions. Other times, simply taking fifteen to thirty minutes to “mentally” deliver the material is useful.

Whether you’re speaking to a crowd of hundreds or delivering your one-millionth classroom training, I think you’ll find that a little concentrated practice will allow you to enter into the “speak easy” state of delivery.

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